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How To Beat Your Wife By Charly Boy

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Article written by Charles Oputa.
When I look back at my life, and all the stuff I did as a carefree, young and restless youth, I can’t help but shudder at some of my very bad habits. Yes, I was once short-fused; blowing off at the slightest provocation.
It was pitiful. Over time I have managed to rid myself of such sad habits but that can’t be said for a lot of men some of who, even late in their lives can’t still get over it, thereby losing their cool in their homes. No be small thing sha.
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Domestic violence is an under reported crime in Nigeria, almost accepted as norm. Some men feel it’s their right, some feel it’s always the women who bring out the beast in them, while others will readily admit its a way of stamping their authority in the home. Sadly, many don’t see anything wrong with beating their wives.
How sad! Yes, am aware there are women who beat up their husbands, but those are in the minority and this piece ain’t about them.
The most guilty perpetrators are usually men and the victims are mostly their wives and sometimes their children too.
Men abusing women is like a defence and coping mechanism for being or feeling WEAK in other aspects of life, sometimes including deep analog beliefs about masculinity. Men who abuse loved ones tend to blame other things or people for their violent outbursts. In some cases, it is a cycle: “my father abused me and my mom, so, it’s normal”.
Society doesn’t help either, it ingrains in a man’s psyche that macho bullshit; how he should be strong and if he can’t exhibit that in his daily public life, it’s ok for him to go home and prove his strength.
Abusive men are not limited to a particular status, it ranges from a bricklayer to a CEO or even a President, causing their women to perpetually live in anxiety and fear. Most of them tip-toe around their husbands, not because they respect these men, but because of fear.
A violent man might have grown up in a dysfunctional household but this is still not a reason to be abusive. It is an excuse, and a flimsy one at that.
Some men don’t come from humble homes where women are appreciated. Some of us come from homes that expose us to sex, gossip, male macho bullshit.
Values for treating women start with where you’re coming from, your background. However, beyond these, what fucks most men up is our BIG FAT EGO.
It has everything to do with selfishness or overrated feeling of self-importance. QED.
Ego is the source of many negatives in the world.
It is the false ‘self’ that Jesus said we should let die before we can gain everlasting life. Ego craves to be first, but we must be willing to be last.
Unconditional love comes with humility, selflessness, abundant generosity, perfect responsibility, fearless confidence.
I no go brag, am not all that, but I dey try. God knows!
Now, for the man who feels trapped in this mad dance with his loved ones and is trying very hard to rid himself of this very terrible habit, do like me.
If you start to feel that your fuse is about to burst, try and say nothing, hold it in for a few minutes and relocate yourself to another space, either in your house, or outside. Allow some time to elapse before you express yourself, never talk or let your fist run amok when you’re upset; it doesn’t make for a good picture.
Even though I have cured myself of my short fuse, i still get tempted from time to time. What works best for me now is silence.
I go and lock myself in my room and will never utter a word to my lady until am sure am in control of my faculties. Since many moons ago, I have discovered that this is a very effective option in dealing with a very bad temper.
So next time you are with your woman and you feel like turning her into a punching bag, change the game, beat her with your silence for the period you feel like blowing your fuse. Na my way be that oooooo.
This is just my take sha, how you see the matter my guys?
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‘In Our Country Nigeria Igbo Businessmen Are No Longer Safe, They Seem to be the Most hated’ – Charly Boy

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Entertainer, Charly Boy shared an article on his Instagram page in which he opined that Igbo businessmen are no longer safe in the country.

Making reference to the money laundering allegation leveled against Air Peace boss, Allen Onyema, Charly Boy opined that Igbo businessmen seem to be the most hated in the country.

Read his article below

We Are Biafrans.
Nigeria Doesn’t
Live in Me.
CharlyBoy.

Few years back , I watched a story on the Airpeace CEO, Allen Onyema as he was talking about his frustrations as a genuine business man who only wanted to provide service and make money. He was complaining about how the badly thought out economic policy of the government was frustrating his business.


He exposed to the world how aircrafts sent for servicing were stranded because of the crunch on foreign currency. Currency which we all knew was being wheeled and dealed by the faceless and nameless cabals in government……
na god go punish una for us.

He cried out to Nigerians, highlighting the millions of dollars lost because of some very senseless policies of government. After that day I became a big fan of air peace and I decided that I’ll patronize them every time I’m traveling their routes.

This was why I hailed his patriotism and sacrifice when South Africans were killing our people like flies and our government was dining and feasting with our murderers. Even our shameless government wey no get national career no remember to do anything, I just dey wonder, na because dem be Omo Igbo’s?

See as dem been wan slander em name. See as everything for Naija don turn into dirty politics. Hmmmmmm……. make we think am ooo

In this country these days Igbo business Men no safe at all. They seem the most hated in the country. I just no dey understand. Is it a crime to come from the southeast and also be a successful businessman.

Una see how dem been deal with Jim Nwobodo of Savannah Bank, how about Cletus Ibeto of Ibeto Cement, una go still remember Innocent Chukwuma of Innoson Motors and now it is Allen Onyema of Air Peace.

Weytin dey play for this nyamanyama country sef?
Everybody now know and can see the reason why the Igbo’s want Biafra.
Too much injustice in the land. People from southern Kaduna nko? Ijaw people nko?

Igbo’s usually excel because they work hard and no matter the oppression they always rise to the challenge. You can’t stop the river from flowing. You can tackle them all you want but they will forever keep on Trucking.

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My Father Trekked 1 Mile A Day At 97 – Charly Boy Mocks Buhari

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President Buhari had after supplications and butchering of slam on Tuesday, chose to walk home from the mosque, consoling Nigerians that he is solid enough for 2019.



The report has since created a great deal of debates and remarks from Nigerian government officials, for the most part from those in the restriction.
In his response, Charlyboy said Buhari was a disappointment regardless of the separation he strolled.
He expressed that a President ought to rather be adulated for making employments and destroying neediness.

In a post on his Twitter page, Charly Boy wrote;
“If Buhari like make he trek from Abuja reach Jericho, who he help? Na confirm failure. Em health, em presidency, suffering Nigerians.
“Before my papa died at 97, he dey trek at least 1mile a day. Sai Baba go rest, no dey drag with your children dem. Is not by force Abegi.
“Oga president is not being praised for creating jobs or getting suffering Nigerians out of poverty. He is being praised for trekking two poles.”
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#OurMumuDonDo: From Charlyboy’s Pulpit

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The Revolution Beckons in 2017. The Mindlessly Audacious Political Criminality of Government Will Be Matched With The Renewed Mass Popular Uprising of the Nigeria People Demanding A Better Nation, Good Governance, Fairness, Equality and Justice For all Nigerians. Our Hunger, Anger, Vexation and Frustration don Belle-full.

 It is Time to #FloodTheSystem with Fearlessly Youthful, Mentally Defiant and Incredibly Determined Nigerians. The Demons of the Nigeria Nation have Used Religion, Ethnicity, Tribalism and Corruption to Divide us. Now we say Enough is Enough, Now #CitizensFightBack. This will Be Explosive, This Will Be Controversial, This Will Shake the Foundation of our Mumuness. But at the end of the day 2017 will Begin the March to Freedom from Political Insanity.

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Our Mumu Don Do – Charly Boy Used This Photo To Narrates How He Feels About The Current Government

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Our Docility is Killing our Humanity; Our indifference is Enabling Corruption in Governance and our Silence is Creating Political Monsters with the Audacity for Impunity and Criminality. Mr Prayer warrior, If prayers can save Nigeria, pray tell. Why are there millions of frustrated Naijas? 

Has prayers reduced our poverty? Has our prayers killed most of our evil leaders who have caused us great hardship? Has our prayers stopped the everyday increment in our cost of living? Why are so many young people committing suicide these days?
 
Our Mumu never Do? Shey all we do is to endure and adjust as usual. When asked, how are you, you answer like a cracked CD, ” It is Well”  How can it be well when you sit in your corner and never contribute to making it well, when all you do is dry fasting and the internet. And all you have to offer as a solution to your problem is, “God Dey. 
 
See you, Dat one no be poor man prayer? and you wan form Big Boy. Sorry.
When your lazy ass is home 24/7, living on your phone, laptop burning your data as if your life depends on it. Purging many Naijas with your terrible english and your ignorant useless comments, hoping it will be well in Jesus name with the loudest chant of amen…
 
Who you dey deceive. My people, take it from me, Jesus is not coming any time soon. Forget it. God is not sending down Angels to come and fix Nigeria for us.
Fraustrated and religious Naijas, Abegi make una park well. We are not living in biblical times.
Tell me where what happened in the Bible has happened in todays world, because many will use the bible as their book of reference as if we still live back in the days. 
 
No emotional or religious blackmail please…and Yes I read the Bible. Israelites took the decision to make their country a better place. Where in history has prayers fixed the economy.
 
Such mentality is laughable, It encourages the people who can barely survive to see their condition as something they could/should live with. It makes people see mediocrity, poverty and quick fixes as normal.
See as our pastors/politician dey chop us like chewing gum.
 
This is why we rather congregate in worship centers and hold chain prayers; calling upon God to come down from his throne and transform our gagragagra nation. 
Fellow frustrated Nigerians, this is our battle to fight. We must retrieve our stolen future, it is our only option, or else most of us will die for nothing. 
 
We must define how much we care about this Country; How willing we are to move from Social Media/Church to the Streets and How Ready we are to Make your Country proud. We do not have all the answers to the Nigeria Problems; But we know the People can Change the System.
 
The power of a nation lies in the hands of the people/youths. No way again, must we allow analog rifrafs, senile, greedy, selfish gang of thieves in the senate/executive to continue to cause us more pain and hopelessness. They must not continue to rule us.
 
God will never come down to fight our battle, the time has finally come to take our destiny in our hands. Our uproars, our constant revolting, angry protests, will do the job. 
Abegi joor! #OurMumuDonDo
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